26 April 2007

ponders

I was just thinking....
For my wedding I got a card from my brother that said something to the effect of "good now that's over, so when are you gunna have a baby". It was very funny at the time.
See I don't mind the whole when are you gunna get married question. But Ive been thinking lately about why someone would want to ask about the baby thing!! Unless one has a good experience one should never wish pregnancy on another poor soul. It really amazes me how many people say the liked being pregnant. I find comfort from those who hated it :) and love their kids. It's amazing to me that people looked shocked when they ask how's it (pregnancy) going and I respond with pretty horrible.
It's as if they expect its the most wonderful feeling in the world is to go to the bathroom every 10 minutes and have no control over your physical body!
It will be so wonderful to meet my little one and I think HOPE is the only thing to get me through.
I'm hoping I never catch myself asking you "When are you gonna get pregnant".
You know-- I bet labor erases ones memory!!

10 comments:

Pam said...

David and I dated for 5 years before we got married, and we were engaged for 3 of them! After we had been married for a few years, people started HOUNDING us about when we were going to have a baby. It became very painful because we struggled with infertility (as you can see, God was victorious over that problem), and every time someone asked me about it, it was like another stab to the heart.

I did not enjoy pregnancy like some people do. I was happy because I was finally going to have a baby, but I was VERY relieved when it was over. I was not running to the bathroom all the time, I could sleep comfortably (as long as the baby did), I could move, and I had so much energy. I had tons of contractions throughout most of both of my pregnancies. They never put me into pre-term labor, but I was really stressed about them. If I did too much, or didn't drink enough water, they would pick up, and that made me really nervous.

Take heart. This too shall pass. You have much to be thankful for. You didn't have any trouble conceiving. You have a healthy baby. You haven't felt great, but it could have been worse!

You are often in my thoughts and prayers!

Tracy said...

I'm sorry you are not enjoying your pregnancy. It isn't fun feeling like you don't have control over your body. Have you begun to feel the baby move and kick yet? Weeks 20 - 30 when the baby is the most active really seem to be the most enjoyable (not as much needing to go to the bathroom either). Hope the pregnancy gets better for you. If not, it shouldn't affect how you relate with your baby. Of course, if you plan to nurse don't expect to have control over your body for awhile -- they can be quite demanding for awile.

THE SPEARS said...

being sick all the time is not fun and having to pee every half an hour, gets old real fast. But concentrate on all the blessing!! the pregency complaints is so much less painful then being pregant and having a miscarraige, or even worse a stillborn which i have had to go through. So every day your sick/ not feeling good look at it as a blessing the baby is still alive and growing!! and really when it is all said and done and you are looking/holding the baby for the first time wow!!
also hate to tell you when you have the baby it's not over you will find alot more things that will make you uncomfortable, going to school for the 1st time first bad high fever etc.. the list goes on, but i will pray for you and try real hard to see the huge wonderful blessing you have love you lots Delilah

Rachel and Jacob said...

yeah I agree I don't see any blessings now :)

Rachel and Jacob said...

I think Im just so shocked that I got pregnant. You know, definitely not planned by me- only GOD! so I have a really hard time imagining me as a mother.

chuck said...

as my beloved wife tells me when I complain about work and getting up at 4:00 a.m. for the rest of my life......."It's your curse, get over it." Believe it or not that is the biblical point of view, so it sucks but "it's your curse, get over it."

Rachel and Jacob said...

yes, it is a curse.

Anonymous said...

You are going to be a wonderful mother.you will have healthy baby,and you will have God's grace raising your little one. Psalm 139:14 You are all in my thoughts and prayers!

Rebecca Hallman said...

I can definitely say "AMEN!!" to everything you just said! I've often had the exact same thoughts... but haven't expressed them to many people because I thought I might sound ungrateful for the "little blessing". But honestly, I have thought about saying to people when they say "Congratulations!" to me... "Congratulations? For what? For morning sickness? For crampy, achy yuckiness? For more potty trips than I would like? Oh Thank you!!" Yup... I can definitely relate!

Preston's Mommy & Daddy said...

Hey Rachel, its Shelley!!! I promise that it will be all worth it when your baby comes. I cant say that it is always easy but when you hold your little one and realize that he is yours it will warm your heart over and over again. You must be in the 3rd trimester huh? I remember wishing it would be over when it started to get closer and closer. I can't imagine life without Preston. When is your due date? Take it easy girly:)